Psychological Perspective-Help your child to vent his emotions reasonably
A child loses his temper for help. What does an adult do to be a good parent?
People usually use the standard that when children are happy, happy, obedient, and polite, we are proud of ourselves and their children. This is the “good parent”; on the other hand, when children are depressed and angry and irrationalWe may teach our children, or blame ourselves, think that we are failing parents, do our best to persuade, and even use scolding to force our children to change.
Children are cute by nature, easy to get along with and cooperate with others, and have a strong thirst for knowledge, but why do children “fool”?
Because bad emotions cover up good nature, when they feel sad, scared, lonely and other bad emotions, they will not have trust, cooperation and positive attitude towards people. The child feels that he has been hurt and his behaviorIf people feel angry and disgusted, this does not mean that the child’s moral quality is not good, but that the child is seeking help, that he needs to be heard and understood by adults, and does not mean a serious failure of parenthood.responsibility.
Use psychological methods to help children vent their bad emotions and restore their cute, easy-going and easy-to-learn nature.
When the child vents his bad mood, he becomes very confident, enthusiastic and polite.
Listen to the vent of the child Every day, 7 years old, recently started elementary school, not very adapted to the environment of the elementary school, every morning he will become a little irritable before going to school, his mother chooses the first clothes he wears for schoolEvery day, she began to lose her temper, and her mother chose the second one. He still made troubles unreasonably. What should my mother do in this situation?
Some people will choose reprimand, forcing children to put on clothes to go to school quickly, but when you choose to reprimand this method, you choose a “war” between parents and children, this morning will be very painful.
Our parents should think about why children lose their temper?
We need to allow the child to lose his temper and give him a chance to vent his emotions. He will quarrel and fight with unseen opponents. This is because he has not achieved his purpose and caused humiliation (adults should understand this feeling)Let him vent. The process is only five to 15 minutes. It is sufficient for the adult to listen while ensuring the safety of the child.
After a while, the child’s tantrum will pass, he will laugh, and be intimate with his parents. This is a wonderful change. You will clearly realize your child’s patience in the following time.It has been greatly enhanced.
Children lose their temper in public places and make adults experience severe paralysis and embarrassment. In toy stores such as McDonald’s and other places, children often lose their sense of temper and lose their temper because they have not reached satisfaction. Adults will feel ashamed.Some young parents blush and teach their children together, or one is learning and the other is awkwardly aside.
What we are really worried about is being considered a failure by others and being taken lightly by others.
A more accurate method is to help bring the spattered child to a more hidden place. Brake you can control the situation. There is no need to worry about bystanders. They all have similar experiences and will understand your inevitable state.
Learn to vent, your child will be tougher Allow the child to naturally lose his temper, will it condone the child’s willfulness?
Adults need to adjust their own inherent views. Parents (not necessarily couples) can establish a listening relationship. Several adults have children, especially children of similar ages. Make good appointments and avoid children.Focusing on the topic of child rearing, everyone talked about some aspects of their work well and not well, everyone took this opportunity to share the feelings brought by their own little mule donkeys.
For example, you can revisit the scene where we lost patience and became angry. Why we are angry, you will find that you can do better and more rationally, and listen to your children more patiently.
Therefore, listening to the child’s temper will not spoil the child, but will greatly increase the ability of parent-child communication.
“Awful 2 years old”, “7 years old” . Children of every age have their own worries to vent.
Children with parents listening will be very confident after puberty and will not be despaired by suffering setbacks, because they learned to vent their bad emotions reasonably in childhood and have the ability and self-confidence.
He still persists when he encounters difficulties, relieves tension, and he can be friendly with others. When he is irritable, someone listens patiently, but the lesson is learned. Therefore, he also learns to think for others, to help and sympathize with everyoneBecause that’s how we treat him.